More Overwhelming

Well I need to sit down and do some organizing and figuring on things here. I need to figure out a way to not get so overwhelmed with everything, get everything done, have time with my husband and kids and still have some down time as well. The past couple of days my Husband has been adding things that he wants me to do on a daily basis. I am also thinking that even though he doesn't want me doing it, because it's the man's job, I am going to have to take out the garbage. I have bagged it up and set it in the hallway by the entryway door, and it has sat there for about 3-4 days now. I am tired of it sitting there. I am not sure why they see it as so hard to grab a bag as they're on their way out the door and drop it in the garbage can which is right outside the door. So I am not sure how I am going to juggle everything and have any time to do anything else other then clean and take care of my two kids, my husband and his brother that lives with us. So I have been looking into the FLYLady thing. I have been told that it's really good and have read some testimonials of people who it really seemed to work for. So if I could impliment it into my routine and stick to it, it might help me to get the house clean, keep it clean and have time to work on all the other things that my Husband wants me to get done every day. I just get so overwhelmed and upset so easy when I constantly have him and others always coming up to me and telling how I should be doing this and doing that every day. When they don't have anything extra to do other then their out of the home job. Yes I understand that I am the housewife/homemaker and it's my job to take care of the home and everything. But that doesn't mean that they can keep piling on more things for me to do on a daily basis, then come home and ask why I didn't get things done. Then I feel worse because I worked my butt off getting done what I could, wore out, sore back and feet and feel bad that I didn't get the things done they wanted. Plus I feel like I have no reason to say anything about being sore when they are out working with cows or at a factory on their feet and stuff all day. I feel like they have more of a right to be sore and vocalize it then I do. I feel like I should just paint on a smile, nod my head and say yes I see, I am sorry you feel like that, is there anything I can do? And do what I can to forget about my soreness and exhaustion. That's what I feel like lately. But yet I still keep getting things piled onto my plate of things to do. Will it ever get easier? I hope so.